Are you freaking out from the title yet? Well you should be! I can already hear the shouts of “Casey are you crazy why on earth would you love instalove, I think we need to talk” just hear me out for a minute or five.
Okay so what is it about instalove everyone hates? It is that in young adult book it seems impossible for a 14 year old to find love, It’s that loving someone instantly sounds cliché and love is based on solid mature relationships, It is that you cringe when teens say I love you after two weeks because THEY DON’T KNOW WHAT LOVE IS WHAT IS THIS MOCKERY OF ROMANCE *head explodes*.
I have a confession to make and I ask you to please save all gasps for the end people. I fell in love at 14, I said I love you after a very short amount of time, I was a sappy, doe eyed, obsessed teenager who spent every waking minute on the phone or with my boyfriend. I am literally the story that makes people roll their eyes and think as if, my whole relationship started via insta love. And don’t get me wrong I have hated stories based on insta love and cringed with the rest of you as those two 15 year olds declared their un dying love, then I realised wow I’m a hypocrite that was actually me in real life so I guess it’s still cringe worthy but not that unbelievable.
I love my own instalove and I guess that makes me appreciate others instalove.
My love story is a different one, it’s a story that started when I was 14 and I became infatuated with this tall nerdy boy with blues eyes that have yellow around the iris, he is tall and olive skinned, he forced me to watch all the Dragon Ball Z episodes with him and wrote online FAQs about his favourite video games. He spray painted a rose for me and I pressed it between the pages of my favourite book, we became one person to our friends, I landed my dream boy. Like all love stories I wish it was all rose’s and kisses in the rain. He was kicked out of home when he was 16 moved in with me and my parents, got in trouble with the police for doing some stupid teenage stuff, he also helped me with my year 12 exams and started doing too many courses trying to figure out who he was and what he wanted, we moved out together and he supported me every time life got to much and I tried to disappear into my books, supported my constant career changes and dark days, we bought our first home this year, we have stayed up covered in paint and singing at the top of our lungs to really bad pop songs and all the hard work has finally paid off and we’re happy which is really the biggest achievement.
It has been 8 years together today, I fell in love with this impossibly amazing, caring boy in 2008 and am more in love with this compassionate, beautiful amazing man in 2016. So before I become impossibly sappy I’d just like to say insta love is cliché and cringe worthy but so am I, so I will always appreciate a teenage love story and mine will always be my favourite.
Just to be even more heart eyed today here are a few of my love stories and why I love the romance in them.
“The way I feel about him is like a heartbeat — soft and persistent, underlying everything.”
Why I love it: For being the messy love story of two teens trying to figure each other out.
“I was his and he was mine, and we were the beginning and middle and end. We were a song that had been sung from the very first ember of light in the world.”
Why I love it: For Rhys showing Feyre that she is strong and letting her realise that for herself, for showing that sometimes all you need is a little support and for always believing the damsel in distress can save herself as well as everyone else.
“You’ve read the books?”
“I’ve seen the movies.”
Cath rolled her eyes so hard, it hurt. (Actually.) (Maybe because she was still on the edge of tears. On the edge, period.) “So you haven’t read the books.”
“I’m not really a book person.”
“That might be the most idiotic thing you’ve ever said to me”
Why I love it: For Levi being the smilest human on the planet and listening to Cath explain books because even though he doesn’t read he still loves the stories she tells.
“Maybe Park had paralyzed her with his ninja magic, his Vulcan handhold, and now he was going to eat her.
That would be awesome.”
For being the best little nerds I could ever ask for and finding love in outcast ways that could rock all the rom coms and staged kisses in hollywood.
“The past is with me; the present is here. The future is unmapped and changeable. Ours for the imagining: spreading out before us. Sunlight filled, deep blue, and the darkness.”
Why I love it: For bestfriends falling in love, for the love of books and the words they hold and the different ways different people can love the same book.
“Words brought us together though they almost kept us apart.
You trusted me with your secrets and then you stole my heart.”
Why I love it: For the way they fall into friendship before love, for the love of the same indie bands and the sharing of music, for the hidden weirdness in us all.
Okay so that’s enough sap from me, I would just like to dedicate this post to my amazing partner Peter and our 8 year anniversary. You are my fictional dream in real life and I will forever fangirl over you.